Post by Keyboard Warrior on Jun 23, 2012 21:23:45 GMT -5
Paying attention to what your body language says about you is one of the main concepts that we take for granted. It's one of the key concepts to ending a conflict or escaping one before it even begins.
Before we can even discuss body language, we need to talk about the Bully Mentality. The Bully mentality is how not only bully's operate, but your average criminal picks their next target. A bully doesn't want to go to alot of effort to get what he wants. Ergo he's not going to pick the 250 pound body builder. That would be foolish. The bully/criminal picks his target based on who he perceives is going to put up the least amount of resistance. That's why people perceived as "nerds" and "geeks" are picked on the most, because they are perceived as the least amount of threat to them.
This is why its important to be careful in how you present yourself to the rest of the world. Here are a few things that bully's look for
-Your arms and your hands. Are they in your pockets? This tells a criminal/bully that you don't have quick access to your hands, if they were to assault you right then and there. Plus it doesn't show you have any confidence, rather insecure if your hands are in your pockets. How your arms sway as you walk tell alot too. Do they rock back and forth as you walk, exuding a confident person, or are they at your side most of the time?
-Headphones/Sunglasses/Hoodies. If you are wearing all of these in public, you are cutting off all of your senses. Your headphones cutoff your hearing, making it difficult to tell if someones approaching you from behind. Sunglasses darken your vision, and hoodies cut off your peripheral vision. All of these things, are what bully's look for when picking a target.
-Your posture. Are you walking hunched over, looking down, are you walking with your chest puffed out, looking straight ahead? Nothing will set a criminals eyes on you faster than someone slouched over, hands in their pocket, looking down. Walk confidently
-Alertness. Are you texting on your phone/reading a newspaper, to where you are completely shut out from the world around you? Or are you being mindful of everyone that is around you, keeping tabs on everyone who enters and leaves a building, keeping track of who's behind you, etc..? Criminal s aren't likely to pick a target that knows that they are already there. They want the element of surprise on their side, and if your watching them the whole time, this kills it, and the bully/criminal will move on to another target.
So these are just a few tips on how to be mindful of how you present yourself to the world, and how exactly the Bully/criminal thinks. If you can follow some of these concepts and rules, you can end a conflict before it even starts.
Before we can even discuss body language, we need to talk about the Bully Mentality. The Bully mentality is how not only bully's operate, but your average criminal picks their next target. A bully doesn't want to go to alot of effort to get what he wants. Ergo he's not going to pick the 250 pound body builder. That would be foolish. The bully/criminal picks his target based on who he perceives is going to put up the least amount of resistance. That's why people perceived as "nerds" and "geeks" are picked on the most, because they are perceived as the least amount of threat to them.
This is why its important to be careful in how you present yourself to the rest of the world. Here are a few things that bully's look for
-Your arms and your hands. Are they in your pockets? This tells a criminal/bully that you don't have quick access to your hands, if they were to assault you right then and there. Plus it doesn't show you have any confidence, rather insecure if your hands are in your pockets. How your arms sway as you walk tell alot too. Do they rock back and forth as you walk, exuding a confident person, or are they at your side most of the time?
-Headphones/Sunglasses/Hoodies. If you are wearing all of these in public, you are cutting off all of your senses. Your headphones cutoff your hearing, making it difficult to tell if someones approaching you from behind. Sunglasses darken your vision, and hoodies cut off your peripheral vision. All of these things, are what bully's look for when picking a target.
-Your posture. Are you walking hunched over, looking down, are you walking with your chest puffed out, looking straight ahead? Nothing will set a criminals eyes on you faster than someone slouched over, hands in their pocket, looking down. Walk confidently
-Alertness. Are you texting on your phone/reading a newspaper, to where you are completely shut out from the world around you? Or are you being mindful of everyone that is around you, keeping tabs on everyone who enters and leaves a building, keeping track of who's behind you, etc..? Criminal s aren't likely to pick a target that knows that they are already there. They want the element of surprise on their side, and if your watching them the whole time, this kills it, and the bully/criminal will move on to another target.
So these are just a few tips on how to be mindful of how you present yourself to the world, and how exactly the Bully/criminal thinks. If you can follow some of these concepts and rules, you can end a conflict before it even starts.